At 45 days old, babies are still adjusting to life outside the womb, so crying is their main way of communicating. Here are some gentle, effective ways to soothe a crying newborn:
Hunger: Even if they just ate, they might want a little more.
Diaper: A wet or dirty diaper can be surprisingly upsetting.
Burping: Trapped gas is a common culprit.
Temperature: Make sure they’re not too hot or cold.
Swaddle snugly: Mimics the womb and helps them feel secure.
Rock or sway: Gentle rhythmic motion can be very soothing.
White noise: A fan, shushing, or a white noise machine can recreate womb-like sounds.
Sucking: Offer a pacifier or clean finger—non-nutritive sucking is calming.
“The Hold” technique: Pediatrician Dr. Robert Hamilton recommends folding the baby’s arms across their chest, supporting their chin and bottom, and gently rocking them at a 45-degree angle. It’s like a magic trick for some babies.
Sometimes babies just need to cry for a few minutes to release tension. If you’ve checked all the basics and they’re still fussy, it’s okay to take a short break—place them safely in their crib and breathe for a moment. You’re doing great.
Want me to walk you through “The Hold” step by step or suggest a calming bedtime routine? I’ve got you.
Fold the baby’s arms across their chest Gently bring both arms together so they’re crossed snugly over the chest.
Secure the arms with your hand Use your palm to hold the baby’s arms in place, supporting their chest.
Support the bottom With your other hand, firmly hold the baby’s bottom, using your palm and fingers to cradle their diaper area.
Hold the baby at a 45-degree angle This angle helps prevent head flopping and supports digestion.
Gently rock or bounce Use small, smooth up-and-down motions. Avoid jerky movements—think calm and rhythmic.